If you don’t believe in Jesus Christ and are not interested in a religious topic, skip this post.
As our daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter grieve the loss of their stillborn son and brother and our sister-in-law grieves the loss of her brother, I wish I could take away their pain. I can’t imagine the ache in their hearts as they miss their baby and brothers.
I know that Jesus Christ knows their pain and can lift the burden of grief as they (and we) pray to Him for comfort.
I used to wonder how Christ could relate to my pain. He didn’t sin so how could He know of the pain and anguish I felt from making poor choices? And how could He relate to pain from illness or grief when He had such a short life?
I’ve since come to understand the Atonement a little better. Jesus Christ knew what His mission on earth was. He knew He wouldn’t be here long. Knowing His mission, and that He would pay the price for our sins, had to be an incredibly lonely feeling. If anyone could honestly say “nobody understands me”, it would be Him. He knew that God, the Eternal Father, knew Him and was there to strengthen Him.
We read, in the scriptures, that He did suffer grief and pain; more than I ever have. But does He actually know what you or I are going through? I mean, other than watching us go through it and feeling the heartache like a loving parent has for their suffering child? I believe He has actually, physically, experienced everything that I have gone through. He was able to do this through the miracle of the Atonement. He asked the Eternal Father to bless Him to experience these things.
Alma, an ancient prophet, prophesied of Christ’s atonement: “And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities” (Alma 7:11–12; emphasis added). Luke tells us that His pain was so extreme that “his sweat was as it were great drops of blood falling down to the ground” (Luke 22:44, Doctrine & Covenants 19:18-19). And He did it willingly; just so He could comfort us when we had to endure the pain. I wonder if experiencing our infirmites made it easier for Him to endure paying for our sins?
Our pain doesn’t, usually, immediately go away when we pray that Jesus will heal us or lift our burden. But, over time, as we trust Him and rely on Him and listen to Him, our pain gets lighter and we are able to bear it.
I remember a description of, or analogy about, how our trials strengthen us. It describes how a wound in our flesh heals. As it heals, it builds scar tissue. The scar tissue is actually stronger than the original tissue. It takes time, patience and endurance. But, the wound DOES heal. Maybe the love of family and friends is like the ointment used to comfort and protect the wound until it is scarred?
Our hearts go out to you. We pray that your hearts will heal. We love you dearly.
I looked and looked for the pastel drawing of Jesus and a todler looking into each other’s faces. I couldn’t find it. But this is about as close as it gets: